I have a big mouth

A tiny sparkYep, you heard it here first. . . .

In the past there have been instances where I said more than I should have. Where I’ve thought that I have the answer and everyone should listen to me….and what do you know… I’ve gotten myself in trouble. Maybe I was having a bad day, maybe I was right, maybe I was wrong or maybe I was misunderstood and someone took offense. Not that I meant to offend them, but what I would call encouraging or helpful “advice” may not be taken that way.  Today I try to make an effort to be uplifting…encouraging but even then I can offend you…you see. I’m imperfect.

The boss man and I have the type of relationship where we can speak our minds (and we do sometimes louder than other times) but we both know it’s not personal. We’re both a little opinionated. At times we remind each other that it’s not personal, and we LET IT GO.

Some people are not like that, they don’t know how to let it go…they’re like elephants! At least I think they’re like elephants, because I’ve heard elephants remember everything.  I’m learning…not everyone can be trusted, so watch what you say! At this stage in my middle-aged life (ouch), I’m learning, but it’s a work in progress. I’m learning how to be myself,  to not worry about what other’s think of me, to not judge others, to say nice things, to think nice things, to not think or say mean things, to see beyond the bitterness of another person, to keep my mouth shut AND to attempt to stay sane at the same time. It takes a great deal of prayer for me!

So…how do we learn to speak up when it’s appropriate or to stay silent when it’s best to do so? I’m not sure! I struggle… that’s why I’m beginning a study with a group of women. We’ll be trying to figure it out over the next couple of months, or at least get a grip on what God says about the topic.  I’ll let you know how it goes…wish me luck.


Spinach and Raspberry Salad

Do you love it when you stumble upon a tasty dish; one you whip up quickly out of the slim picken’s that are in your refrigerator?

The refrigerator was empty and  I was looking for something light to have for lunch…something that would fit into the 21 Day Fix meal plan. #21dayfix  I had seen a couple of clean eating salads on Pinterest but it was one of those days, and I wasn’t inspired at all. I grabbed a couple of ingredients and whipped this up…and now it’s my favorite! The salad is so simple, it’s crazy and its also easy to substitute for some variety

Spinach and Raspberry Salad   (Single Serving)

  • 1 Cup Fresh Spinach
  • 1/4 – 1/3 C of Rasberries
  • Honey balsamic Dressing (1tbsp balsamic vinegar and 1/2 tbsp of honey) Make sure the honey is mixed in to the vinegar well since there is such a consistency difference here. Sometimes I stick my small container in the microwave for about 10 seconds to thin out the honey.

Drizzle the the spinach and fruit with your salad dressing and voila Yumminess! Sometimes I literally want to drink the salad dressing or lick the place…but I control myself.

Spinach raspberry salad

Variations:  Use strawberries or blueberries instead of raspberries (or mix them all), add some sliced almonds, pecans, or choose your favorite nut, add a teaspoon or so of feta cheese or even some red onion. Really…you can add just about anything! Well except hard boiled eggs…I didn’t really like that, but you may!

….so if you’re like me and you find yourself with no food in the house (Yes I’m exaggerating…but that’s what it feels like) give it a shot.




Who’s Judging Who?

Stop Judging

Here I am again….writing because I am struggling to stay silent.   I saw a post on Facebook and I cringed. Almost immediately I was a little peeved, I started to put my two cents in the comment thread, but thought better and decided to mind my own business.    However, since then….I’ve been thinking about it, a lot, so here I am getting it off my chest.

The basic story….posted by a server in a restaurant –  a couple sat down for lunch and after ordering they asked their server to hurry and bring the Margarita’s they had ordered so they could “down them” prior to being joined by their pastor. As if this situation wasn’t sad enough, the server posted a snarky post on the social media site. The comments expressed, written by readers of the post, were condemning and down right mean too.  This couple had inadvertently put themselves in the place of being called hypocrites and “fake a$% people”. Sometimes Christians are judged unfairly, and sometimes they inadvertently cause this to happen as a result of their actions.

Here’s my thoughts…

It’s sad that the couple wanting to have a margarita were so worried about the judgment of their pastor. I wonder if he/she would have thought less of them, I hope not.

I don’t drink much, by that I mean I have a glass of wine a couple times a year, but I’m pretty sure that the sin related to alcohol is not about having a drink now and again. So having a margarita with your lunch…not a horrible sin worth hiding in my opinion.  I’m sure some would disagree with me but I find no evidence of any difference in the bible. (so don’t be going off on me please).

To Christians – Don’t judge others…that’s not your job. When we “inform” other’s about how, in our opinion, (because we believe the bible or God’s word) they are not living up to the standard of  God,  they will not listen. Would you?, they know you’re not living up to those standards either. We all fall short…even you (and me) Jesus came to save people with good news, not condemn them, so neither should we.

To Non-Christians – Don’t judge others…..You don’t like it when people judge you, so stop it. Christians are not “fake A%$ people, we’re flawed and sometimes we say and do stupid things. We may not handle it perfectly, or even good, when we’re telling you about God…but we’re excited and want you to be in heaven with us. Don’t just make a flat decision without giving a second thought that Jesus died for you too. Think about it, read the book (bible), go to church a couple of times and get some information to make an educated decision. Have a discussion, not an argument, with someone knowledgeable, listen and make a decision. It’s a good thing that we want you to know and understand what we do, but ultimately it’s your choice to believe or not. God knows there will be some people who will not believe or reject Him. Thankfully He lets us choose.

Jesus came to earth to seek and save sinners, and this couple is the perfect example of how we are not perfect. Note to Christians…own your imperfections…be the flawed person you are, who is in need of a savior and saved by God’s grace (a gift).  Being fake will not get us into heaven, even being the best “perfect” possible will not get us into heaven. Only our belief and dependency on Jesus can do that, but your example may prevent another from coming to the realization that they too need a savior. Non-Christians are watching, watching to see if you believe what you say; that Jesus died for you because you fall short of perfection. So stop trying to look better than you are, Jesus died for you, just the way you are, while you were still a sinner. Love him for that, and try to be a better you, because you love him and want to live for Him, but know…you will not be perfect, and it’s ok.

1 Corinthians 10:31-33  (NIV version)

31 So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. 32 Do not cause anyone to stumble, whether Jews, Greeks or the church of God— 33 even as I try to please everyone in every way. For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved.

1 Corinthains 10:31-33 (The Message version)

-33 So eat your meals heartily, not worrying about what others say about you—you’re eating to God’s glory, after all, not to please them. As a matter of fact, do everything that way, heartily and freely to God’s glory. At the same time, don’t be callous in your exercise of freedom, thoughtlessly stepping on the toes of those who aren’t as free as you are. I try my best to be considerate of everyone’s feelings in all these matters; I hope you will be, too. (The message version)


Painting Dandelions

I’m excited to share this project! I have hated the closed doors in Posey’s room for many years and recently have been racking my brain to figure out some inexpensive way to spruce them up. I thought about replacing the hollow doors with mirrored doors (too expensive), changing them to bi-fold doors (don’t really like those), adding molding or something along those lines to add character (not enough clearance between the 2 doors), painting them to have some sort of border around the edge of the door (ewe was the consensus here)  changing them to regular double doors, etc., etc., there were so many ideas running through my head.   I was just sick of thinking about how to get these very big floor to ceiling closet doors to look better. They were just this big blank space of white…well, they weren’t even white any more, more like dirty, fingerprint white.

Once we decided to paint the room grey, it started to come together.  I knew the answer I was looking for. Stencil/paint them (which happened to be one of my previous ideas)  and add some molding to frame them out…Duh!  Wish I would have thought of that before..did I already say duh?

So here they are with a couple of before pictures (not a true before picture as they had already been painted a fresh coat of paint) and one to show you how I grouped various pieces of molding to get the look I wanted.

Stencil or paint dandelions on closet

I wish I could claim the handiwork of painting the dandelions but these beauties were not painted by me.  My eldest child is more talented than I realized, well, not really, I already new she was talented she just proved me right. She had previously painted dandelions on canvas for her house and I was impressed, but these were bigger, WAY bigger, and harder to envision and paint I’m sure. She did a great job! Much better than I would have done

Sliding Closet door frame

Look at them…they’re so big and blank! Oh, and yes, when I work …there’s a mess, I sometimes get really overwhelmed ;-) . ps…the nail gun is becoming my favorite tool.   Molding around sliding closet door

The moldings used to create the header were  – 1″ x 5.5″ MDF, 2 5/8″ door casings,  3 5/8″ crown molding, 1/4″ x 1″ plain molding (the non primed wood), I used this to create the look of a thicker piece of wood right above the side door casings.

One more quick look! This project is a success! Absolutely love the doors, it added another bit of life to the room and for a fraction of the cost of replacing them.  All in all, I’d guess under $35 to have these beauties. I’m gonna need to remember to keep track of that stuff.


Taking I’m Sorry To The Next Step

When I’m mad…look out world.  Saying I’m sorry, well that’s not fun either, of course I do apologize because it’s the right thing to do, but I don’t really like it. I wonder if anyone does.  I know people who would rather loose an eye (well at least it seems like that) before saying they were wrong or apologizing.  I don’t want to be like that and I know that God is working on me in this area. These days, I stop and think before doing or saying something that I’ll have to apologize for! For me, it’s becoming not as important to be right, as it is to act right.

I believe it’s a character defect, this sense of pride that sometimes gets in the way of saying I’m sorry, and we know that pride is not a good thing in God’s eyes. Check out just 2 of the many verses on pride.

Proverbs 11:2 When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.

Proverbs 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.

Enough to make you think twice right!?

So with all that confession, I have always found apologies awkward in a particular way, I noticed it more with my children when they were young. Saying I’m sorry for an offense when you’re not really sorry, doesn’t do much for the hurt feelings of the offended person. I’m sure you’ve seen a child apologize who really doesn’t want to …it’s a short, sometimes grouchy sounding “I’m sorry” and that’s it! It’s almost like a slap in the face. And then…the standard response….”it’s ok”. I never liked that response,  it’s not ok! I knew there had to be a better way to respond, so I taught them to respond differently with a “thank you for your apology” or “I forgive you”. But, something was missing…

The other day it came to me, I was reading in Psalms and thinking about the sincere remorse of David in this particular book written by him; how he sincerely and remorsefully asked for God’s forgiveness. That is what is missing in some apologies, remorse, a feeling of regret for our actions. (not always but much of the time) and asking for forgiveness. Yes, you heard right, asking the other person to forgive the action for which we are apologizing.  How much more sincere the apology is when you actually ask to be forgiven for the transgression because you feel regret for hurting the person. “I forgive you” didn’t make sense because there was not a request for forgiveness.

It’s about humbling yourself … not humiliating, but humbling yourself and asking. Those two get mixed up sometimes. Humbling is not being too proud or to put it another way…getting rid of the ego and humiliating is another person attempting to disrespect or treat you without dignity. And accepting the apology…extending forgiveness…without reproach (blaming) or keeping track of transgressions that’s important too.

I wondered, what if we taught this form of apology to children when they were young? How it would affect their relationships when they grow.  Then I realized…heck with the teaching the young…we should all learn this! How would it affect our relationships?

This is the perfect example of how God forgives. When we come to him with a humble heart, he doesn’t keep track of our sin. He doesn’t jot it down in his little book then bring back up at a later date to use it against us…it’s gone…never to be remembered again, as far as from the east to the west (Psalm 103:12) That’s pretty far gone right? God’s word is full of perfect examples of how He treats us and expects us to treat others but …we’re not perfect, we fall short and when we do, we can ask for and receive His forgiveness.  He is our perfect example to look up to for inspiration.

Hope you enjoy your day! God Bless