When you take notice…
Have you ever had a moment in time when you take notice of something that has been going on for a while but it just hits you in a different manner? Once that “awakening” happens, you see it everywhere. I recently had an this happen to me. It didn’t matter if I was talking to a friend, or having a casual conversation with a woman in a check out line, these small, sometimes unimportant, chats included little references to some type of body dissatisfaction. Some had made remarks about the upper arms, others the thighs or the stomach, it didn’t matter each had a little area of their body that brought insecurity or dislike. It was a casual almost joking reference but still the reference was there.
Once I noticed this type of subtle body shame, I began to see how prevalent it was in so many women. I even noticed that at times I was feeling a similar feeling. Why? Why do we feel this way? What makes us uncomfortable in our own skin? Why do we hold ourselves to the unreasonable standards of a broken society? Especially when we know deep down that we should not. We as women, know how society puts unrealistic ideals on us and yet somewhere deep down, we find ourselves doing the same thing!
How can we correct this?
It’s hard to change our thinking! We know we should, but again…HARD. The enemy whispers in our ear and the world plasters unrealistic images in front of us and we fail. Maybe it would be easier to change our thinking because our looks aren’t as important as we make them. Or maybe we need to recognize them as lies before we can change how we feel about them?
What would God say?
As I thought about this it really troubled me and I know that God would not like this at all! He loves us wholly and holds us to a different standard. This standard that is not based on how we look but who we are on the inside. The bible specifically tells us that we should not strive for the values of this world. I thought I’d share a few verses of truth so we can meditate on what God’s word says. Maybe it will help us to replace the lies that we focus on with thoughts that are more positive, and biblical too!
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1Samuel 16:7 – I love that God looks at our heart!
Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. Peter 3:3-4 – Every culture has it’s definition of beauty and they’re always changing. How are we to even keep up? I don’t think we’re meant to. God’s idea of beauty is never changing.
You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, you are still with me! Psalms 139:13-18 – I love, love, love “How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered”. He has so many precious thoughts about us that they cannot be numbered and are more than the grains of sand? That is just outstanding.
And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. Romans 12:1-2 – God can transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. This is the secret; to think like Jesus and not the world.
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. ‘Proverbs 31:30- It’s inevitable, we are going to get older, the gray hair and dry skin will arrive but along with those features also comes wisdom and grace. Did you know there’s even a bible verse about gray hair being a crown of glory!
New Shirt Design
These bible verses are the inspiration for this new shirt design, “When Life gives you curves, flaunt them!” I hope it encourages a new way of thinking and announces it to the world that we as women are ok with how we look. I’m going to state it one more time…God loves you…now…how you are! Love who you are, there’s only one of you, and the creator of the world thinks you are wonderful just as you are. So drop the body insecurities and if you’ve got curves, well then flaunt it!
I pray that as women we begin to fill our minds with truth, that we find comfort in knowing that we are unique, loved and perfect in God’s eyes. That we understand that God’s will for us is not for us to find fault in our outward appearance but to worship Him then our thoughts will be transformed. I pray that we learn to love both those around us and ourselves too, to find a humble peace and to remember that our curves are nothing to be ashamed of. Amen.
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