Here I am again….writing because I am struggling to stay silent. I saw a post on Facebook and I cringed. Almost immediately I was a little peeved, I started to put my two cents in the comment thread, but thought better and decided to mind my own business. However, since then….I’ve been thinking about it, a lot, so here I am getting it off my chest.
The basic story….posted by a server in a restaurant – a couple sat down for lunch and after ordering they asked their server to hurry and bring the Margarita’s they had ordered so they could “down them” prior to being joined by their pastor. As if this situation wasn’t sad enough, the server posted a snarky post on the social media site. The comments expressed, written by readers of the post, were condemning and down right mean too. This couple had inadvertently put themselves in the place of being called hypocrites and “fake a$% people”. Sometimes Christians are judged unfairly, and sometimes they inadvertently cause this to happen as a result of their actions.
Here’s my thoughts…
It’s sad that the couple wanting to have a margarita were so worried about the judgment of their pastor. I wonder if he/she would have thought less of them, I hope not.
I don’t drink much, by that I mean I have a glass of wine a couple times a year, but I’m pretty sure that the sin related to alcohol is not about having a drink now and again. So having a margarita with your lunch…not a horrible sin worth hiding in my opinion. I’m sure some would disagree with me but I find no evidence of any difference in the bible. (so don’t be going off on me please).
To Christians – Don’t judge others…that’s not your job. When we “inform” other’s about how, in our opinion, (because we believe the bible or God’s word) they are not living up to the standard of God, they will not listen. Would you?, they know you’re not living up to those standards either. We all fall short…even you (and me) Jesus came to save people with good news, not condemn them, so neither should we.
To Non-Christians – Don’t judge others…..You don’t like it when people judge you, so stop it. Christians are not “fake A%$ people, we’re flawed and sometimes we say and do stupid things. We may not handle it perfectly, or even good, when we’re telling you about God…but we’re excited and want you to be in heaven with us. Don’t just make a flat decision without giving a second thought that Jesus died for you too. Think about it, read the book (bible), go to church a couple of times and get some information to make an educated decision. Have a discussion, not an argument, with someone knowledgeable, listen and make a decision. It’s a good thing that we want you to know and understand what we do, but ultimately it’s your choice to believe or not. God knows there will be some people who will not believe or reject Him. Thankfully He lets us choose.
Jesus came to earth to seek and save sinners, and this couple is the perfect example of how we are not perfect. Note to Christians…own your imperfections…be the flawed person you are, who is in need of a savior and saved by God’s grace (a gift). Being fake will not get us into heaven, even being the best “perfect” possible will not get us into heaven. Only our belief and dependency on Jesus can do that, but your example may prevent another from coming to the realization that they too need a savior. Non-Christians are watching, watching to see if you believe what you say; that Jesus died for you because you fall short of perfection. So stop trying to look better than you are, Jesus died for you, just the way you are, while you were still a sinner. Love him for that, and try to be a better you, because you love him and want to live for Him, but know…you will not be perfect, and it’s ok.
1 Corinthians 10:31-33 (NIV version)
31 So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. 32 Do not cause anyone to stumble, whether Jews, Greeks or the church of God— 33 even as I try to please everyone in every way. For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved.
1 Corinthains 10:31-33 (The Message version)
-33 So eat your meals heartily, not worrying about what others say about you—you’re eating to God’s glory, after all, not to please them. As a matter of fact, do everything that way, heartily and freely to God’s glory. At the same time, don’t be callous in your exercise of freedom, thoughtlessly stepping on the toes of those who aren’t as free as you are. I try my best to be considerate of everyone’s feelings in all these matters; I hope you will be, too. (The message version)