Todays’ marriage idea – It’s hard work so put some work into it…and then….it will be easier. Just like anything worthwhile, it takes work to have a good marriage. So putting some work into the marriage, well that’s always a good idea.
What do I mean by work? Get refreshed by going to marriage conferences or classes, join, and keep in touch with, a marriage group, go on dates and don’t talk about the kids or house while your on the date (really hard I know), or even take a short vacation just the two of you. These things really do help to keep you on the right track by making your marriage a priority.
We all know them, those people who’s marriage just seems to click and they make marriage look easy? If you ask them they will tell you….it takes work…and more than likely they set time aside to make the marriage a priority, even above the kids sometimes. This is really hard to do, especially when you have small children, but it’s important that you and your spouse stay connected and on the same page. If you make each other a priority, when the rough times come…and they will….you will have some tools and skills to use and fall back on, and memories to remember of a time when it was just the two of you.
And lastly, for today, don’t give up! Marriage is a commitment, a covenant, pledge, promise to each other IN FRONT OF GOD, and just because it get’s hard doesn’t mean you give up! Anyone can do that! Don’t get me wrong I know there are times that marriages don’t work out, and I’m not condemning that, but more often than not I would bet, with a little help and a committed attitude instead of a “grass is greener” or “it’s not working out” attitude, some of those marriages could be salvaged and blossom into something great!
So don’t give up, put some work into it. The result you get will be in direct proportion to the amount of work you put into it. The question is are you willing?