If you tuned in yesterday you probably know that I’ve decided to share some of my marriage insights. Today’s idea not only goes for marriage but for many relationships in our lives because life is just too short to ruin it with a resentment that you can stop in it’s tracks. So, although today’s post is about marriage you can take this advice and run with it in all your relationships. So Let It Begin With You!
We can very easily begin to get in a cycle. It’s like a circle, where neither spouse wins and neither of you is getting your needs met. For a husband it can usually be traced back to some respect related issue and for a wife it’s usually because she doesn’t feel loved in one way or another. That’s when we get on the “crazy cycle” and we need to get off! Here’s the problem, no one, not you, nor the spouse, is willing go take the first step! I’m here to tell you, that’s stupid! So get off the crazy cycle and if you need to be the one to take the first step toward your spouse…. in the words of Nike, “JUST DO IT!”
God does tell us in Ephesians 5:25-33 (read it!) that husbands should love their wives and wives should respect their husbands. (I’ll probably have to write a post just to discuss this as I most likely will open a can of worms since most don’t understand this verse) But to put it bluntly, it doesn’t say, husbands love your wives, but only if she respects you, and I know it doesn’t say wives respect your husband but only sometimes, when he deserves it. With that said….It means there’s some hard work to do!
So who makes the move first? Well as I’ve told you…YOU! But if you want some proof, …here you go. The person that thinks that they are the more mature makes the first move. See I told you it was YOU! I know, you don’t like it, right? Me either.
Stinks right? Wrong, if you step up and make the first move, that is one move closer to getting off of the crazy cycle. And then you can begin to get your marriage back on the right track…a loving and respectful one.
I wish I could take credit for this idea…not so, I learned it at a weekend marriage conference and both loved and hated the idea. And in case you are wondering…yes, the hate part was that I did think I was the more mature of the two of us, but I didn’t want to be the first to step off the train. I’m here to tell you, it works! You should give it a try.